We all have an unconscious cycle of self-protection that kicks in whenever we feel stressed or threatened. And until we see it, we're trapped by it. Most people don’t know what makes them feel secure, but they know what doesn’t. Knowing whether we are secure or insecure in our attachment style matters because it can either negatively or positively affect how we relate and connect to others.

People generally have one of two primary attachment styles: secure or insecure. The insecure category is further divided into three different styles. Attachment theory explains that these patterns of behavior develop in childhood as a way to protect ourselves from pain while also helping us maintain a connection with caregivers who are expected to provide safety and support. Relationships and Emotions go hand in hand; understanding why we do what we do can greatly improve ou